Stopping crapping on my holiday spirit

**iluvmybaby** · 12-25-2009, 10:43 PM

Negativity is my pet peeve when I am trying to build myself up. Christmas is a very, very bad time for me. My best friend was murdered a week before Christmas, my other best friend died around the same time of the year, years apart. My cat had to be put to sleep around this time....the list can go on and on. Fast forward, there are a few people on my life that just have to crap on my holiday cheer, I tried to ignore it but I got to the point that I stopped answering the phone. My goal in '10, my New Years resolution is, surround myself ONLY with positive people. I finally told this person, if you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all

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**gmyers** · 12-25-2009, 11:04 PM

I don't know why it is but some people seem to enjoy ruining other peoples holiday spirit every year. I wouldn't take their calls until after the holidays are over.

**Kelsey1224** · 12-26-2009, 10:58 AM

That's a great new year's resolution!!

**iluvmybaby** · 12-26-2009, 06:03 PM

Thank gosh for caller ID, I now just avoid her calls and let it go to voicemail. I dont have time for negative ppl. I hope everyone had a happy holiday

**pepperpot** · 12-26-2009, 06:13 PM

My SIL is the epitome of negativity.....drives me up.the.wall.

I kept my mouth shut until I could no longer.......she keeps the kids waiting and 'preaching' about how so many 'have nothing' yada, yada....mind you to a 6 year old who is looking at her dumbfounded on Christmas Eve......and saying how she doesn't want to see any 'frowns' over what they 'get', yada, yada, yada....I just couldn't take it anymore, I said, "Where is all this coming from?"....and thankfully my DH piped in and said, "Yeah, because there's certainly none of that here nor has there ever been" (yea! he finally backed me up!)...she shut up and handed out the presents....and the kids enjoyed their presents.

She had been rattling all night with her negativity and 'know-it-all preaching', good grief. I was glad to leave and go home.

**msmom79** · 12-26-2009, 09:24 PM

some people who are neg. want others to be neg also,so they dont feel alone.in other words,they want you to feel as bad as they do,they are the ones with a problem.because they are hurting,they want others to hurt.its a good thing,most of us dont go down those roads,and it is also good for us to speak up and tell them they are wrong,before they hurt children with their nasty mean comments
codos to you op,for not putting up with it-proud of you girl

**DreamWarrior** · 12-28-2009, 05:08 PM

Christmas is a really bad time of year for me as well... my favorite uncle killed himself on Christmas Eve when I was 8 years old, in my grandmother's house. She found him on Christmas morning.... then a week later I almost lost my mom to an accident on New Year's Eve.. so yea, I feel your pain...

Glad to hear that you are surrounding yourself with positive ppl.. the holidays are hard enough without all the "wah wah wah! feel sorry for me" crap....

**WendyLou75** · 12-28-2009, 07:43 PM

Originally Posted by pepperpot

My SIL is the epitome of negativity.....drives me up.the.wall.

Apparently we have the same SIL... does she live in Va Beach?

My Hubby's whole family are a bunch of nutcases and I've never met any of them in person, yet. His Mom has yet to talk to me on the phone, but does ask about me... the only way I can describe her is to say if you've ever seen the TV show "Burn Notice" - Michael's "Mom" (she was either Cagney or Lacey I get them confused) that's her to a tee.
But his "older" sister (she's 4 years older) beats all I ever saw... some examples, when she's messaging me or John - which she's stopped now since we went off on her - she tries to use super proper English that doesn't even make sense and when I told her how wrong she was and then followed it up with proof she got angry. She told John that his name was/is really Johnathan and he's like UH NO I have my birth certificate and actually said to her "I KNOW my own name!" He really is just John Carl on his birth certificate. Oh and she has this habit of bringing things up from the past... like 30 years ago worth. John and both of his sisters were sexually abused...and like I've said in the past, his Mom and Dad both made horrible horrible deadly choices that adversely effected ALL of them. So she goes running to their Mom around the holidays and brings up all her "poor choices" as a mother. She makes snide comments too... for whatever reason she couldn't or chose not to get gifts for her family for Christmas... well, we did. We got Swiss Colony for his Mom and Step Dad, and both sisters...so now we're "rich".

Oh and she thinks I'm making a mistake by being a Methodist...and that she feels sorry for my mistake...she's a Mormon. And she actually used the word "mistake".

I could go on and on and on about her. The only sane one is his 1/2 sister...and she has not much to do with us at all.

**sunniekiss** · 12-29-2009, 10:49 AM

Have y'all met my Mom? She is a wonderful, kind souled woman who lives for drama.
Last Christmas she refused to go to my sister's home for dinner becase she claimed it was too icy to go however it wasn't too icy for her to go to church services. My sister lives 3 blocks from the church. Mind you she does get along with my sister.
This year she didn't go because I had bronchitis & couldn't go due to the fact that my sister was going to have surgery, toady as a matter of fact, so I didn't want her to get sick from me & have to postpone her operation.

Mom called me 5 times Christmas Day crying that she is alone on Christmas & was having KFC for dinner. She chose to be alone & have KFC. I told her she can come to my house but I didn't want to hear it if she got sick.

Is there any wonder why I hate holidays?

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