Thread: I found out last night
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11-12-2009, 09:55 AM #1bigbig freebie
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I found out last night
that my dh has had sex with another woman. I am in shock and hurt very badly. we talked most of the night and we decided to work on us. I believe that if we both work on us and take the time for us instead of putting the kids first all the time we will make it through this.
I have not slept or ate anything since. I am still in shock.
Please do not bash or tell me to leave him. I have no one here to talk to, I feel very alone right now.
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11-12-2009, 09:59 AM #2Registered User
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I am so sorry
Many prayers for the both of you and I pray you are able to recover from this.
Where has the time gone?
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11-12-2009, 10:03 AM #3Im getting paper
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I am also sorry to hear that, it takes a lot of courage to continue, I commend you both for being willing to work it out.
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11-12-2009, 10:11 AM #4Registered User
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my heart goes out out to you, your a strong woman, and you must love him more than anything. Forgiveness truely comes from the heart,(and mind).
If you are "BOTH" willing to work this out.... then prove the world wrong!
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11-12-2009, 10:22 AM #5Registered User
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Oh I am so sorry. No bashing from me.. everyone has to make their own choice. And like someone said.. as long as both of you are willing to give it another try then go for it. Once piece of advice tho.. if you truly decide to forgive him, ( maybe not forget.. but forgive) then make sure you truly do forgive and not bring it up every time you fight in the future. I hope and pray you two can get thru this. Good luck and God bless
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11-12-2009, 10:22 AM #6britch
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That is so sad. Hopefully, you can work your way through all of this. Good Luck
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11-12-2009, 10:26 AM #7our lil Ruby
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The good news is he told you. I hope you can work thru it. NO bashing.
Would marriage counceling help? I have no advice etc. Just know people who have been thru it and have gone to counceling and that seems to help.....My "adopted" brother. Gone but not forgotten. 8/23/09
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11-12-2009, 10:46 AM #8People Hater
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Awww, I am so sorry to hear that. The good news is though that the two of you are talking and trying to work it out. I know you must feel so alone up there right now, post when you need to or pm me anytime. I wish you the best of luck in getting past this.
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11-12-2009, 10:56 AM #9Registered User
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Sorry to hear that. Get yourself tested for STD's ASAP. I've been there myself only I kicked him out.
Insanity is hereditary. You get it from your kids.
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11-12-2009, 11:04 AM #10I love being a grandma!
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I'm so sorry...
I agree with what has been said... if you truly forgive him.. try not to bring it up each time you are angry. Also forgiving does not mean he gets all the trust back at one time.. he has to earn that.. and you need to be up front with him about that now. I don't believe that once a cheater always a cheater.. yes.. there are some men that fit that.. but there are a few men out there.. who make a mistake once.. and never make it again... you just have to decide which one of these is your hubby.
It will be a long road.. you will go thru several phases... anger.. grief.. insecurities.. feel free to come here and rant, cry, bi***, what ever you need..
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11-12-2009, 11:15 AM #11go ahead....I dare ya
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