over dramatic inlaws

**ladybugva** · 02-11-2008, 08:53 PM

Tiny bit of history my MIL's mom was in a wheelchair and they took my MIL from her mom and she was moved around in the family never really fitting in. That said when she had her own family it meant every thing to her b/c it was her first real family. DH is the only one that got away and has a healthy relationship w/ them. Meaning his relationship w/ me and the kids are first not one w/ his parents. He has older brother #1 living at home (unmarried and it helps his parents financially and since he is single doesn't get that his mom doesn't come first) and brother #2 who is the picture of co-dependnacy. Moved home after the divorce, mom and dad are the best, finds a new woman, (mom not so happy but for good reasons this time) now girlfriend eventually wife knows all, ooops now divorced and mom once again is the wisest woman on earth....

That said his parents are in poor health and have various issues. Every time he gets a call from one of his brother b/c one of his parents are sick you would thing they are about to die. His mom recently got the flue and it went to pneumonia. She was in the hospital and they were giving her lasics to help w/ the fluid. Well she has had congestive heart failure before and that is something you live with. Well by the end of one "death march" conversation w/ one brother his mom also had CHF and that meant she has a heart attack. Well we knew that wasn't true and if they didn't manually drain the fluids w/ a needle we knew it prob. wasn't that bad. and it' wasn't just the pneumonia. Still bad and a pain BUT not nearly all the stuff they were making it.

I told DH the sad part is one day one of them is going to be really sick and you won't know to believe it.

ok, thanks.... we just get frustrated w/ these "oh man, mom/dad's in the hospital, you better call..." sounding like we need to buy those plane tickets... is getting old

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**gmyers** · 02-11-2008, 09:11 PM

I know what you mean my husbands mom used to call her kids and say she was about to die. They'd rush down there and she wouldn't be that sick. It got to where they'd call other family members to get the real story before they went down there.

**Shann** · 02-11-2008, 09:24 PM

that does sound annoying {{{{hugs}}}} I don't know what else to say except maybe congrats on finding a man who knows where his priorities are

**hblueeyes** · 02-12-2008, 01:02 AM

It took my MIL over 20 years to finally die. You get so tired of hearing it. I always told her not to worry, only the good die young. I despised her.

Me

**PrincessArky** · 02-12-2008, 09:13 AM

Originally Posted by hblueeyes

It took my MIL over 20 years to finally die.

**ladybugva** · 02-12-2008, 09:27 AM

wow hblueeyes sorry you and your MIL were on such bad terms

We have a VERY rocky start at first but I thank God every day that DH doesn't lit him mom guilt trip him. He choose me. He was just following the example that they taught

**EricsnKy** · 02-12-2008, 12:08 PM

Nevermind - I read your post wrong. Sorry

**hblueeyes** · 02-12-2008, 01:40 PM

I want to clarify that she was not bedridden or anything. She had a heart attack and continued to drink pots and pots of coffee, bags of chips, boxes of donughts and never cooked a meal, just junk and take out. 10 years later sh had another heart attack and they put in a pacemaker but she did not change he lifestyle and opted for the wo is me, take care of me, pay my bills while I go blow my money on bingo, riverboats and laying on her fat butt eating junk. She did start a rapd decline but by then everone was fed up. She was not a nice person and had the attitude that kids could be treated like crap and have to be there for you. She was abusive and allowed her hubby to be abusive to her kids. Yet they all went running whenever she said I need you, yet she was never there for her kids or grandkids. She never remembered a b'day or christmas but expected gifts for her. I'll stop now. But life without her has been peaceful for everyone.

Me

**ma4angels** · 02-12-2008, 11:06 PM

Originally Posted by hblueeyes

I want to clarify that she was not bedridden or anything. She had a heart attack and continued to drink pots and pots of coffee, bags of chips, boxes of donughts and never cooked a meal, just junk and take out. 10 years later sh had another heart attack and they put in a pacemaker but she did not change he lifestyle and opted for the wo is me, take care of me, pay my bills while I go blow my money on bingo, riverboats and laying on her fat butt eating junk. She did start a rapd decline but by then everone was fed up. She was not a nice person and had the attitude that kids could be treated like crap and have to be there for you. She was abusive and allowed her hubby to be abusive to her kids. Yet they all went running whenever she said I need you, yet she was never there for her kids or grandkids. She never remembered a b'day or christmas but expected gifts for her. I'll stop now. But life without her has been peaceful for everyone.

Me

hblueeyes I think that your MIL and mine must of been sisters or kin some way. They sound like the same person. I also hate mine. And I don't like to feel hate about anyone but with her you can't help it. The only difference between them is mine is still alive.

**hblueeyes** · 02-12-2008, 11:09 PM

So sorry.

Me

***lassss*** · 02-13-2008, 04:59 AM

ohhh it sounds like she belongs to that radio station as well... WAAM ...Well (it's) All About MEEEEEEE

Dh and I wrote his parents off ago last year. They nag and nag and whatever they come down with is the worst and they are gonna die.

yadda yadda yadda

Hope it gets better for you

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