Thread: MY turn to vent and whine re: spoiled siblings

Isn't it weird how parents treat kids so differently?

My sister (whom I love DEARLY) was such a "good girl". The ONLY time I ever remember her getting in trouble was when she was a senoir in high school, she skipped school and took me out of school one day to have pictures of us made for a surprise mothers day present (she saved for months to pay for this) My mom found out about her skipping school and taking me out and even though she could have, she NEVER told my mom why she did it. My mom figured it out when she got her gift, but my sister was still in major trouble. My sis has always been the "sensible one".. shes had a job since she was 16, never been in trouble w/ the law... shes always been a good person..

I on the other hand, was a MESS!!! I was always sneaking out, running away, in trouble w/ the law... I even stole my parents truck once lol but my mom has always treated me different. I don't know why either.

My mom wasn't supposed to have kids because of med probs... so when my sister was born, my parents were estatic... then when I was born, they were even more so... so I was babied by the whole family... now that I am talking about it, I feel really bad LOL I didn't choose myself to be the "spoiled one".

Then you have those kids who are so spoiled they still live with/off of their parents well into adulthood... that part I will never understand. I know that I can go home anytime (as can my sister) but I darn sure can't go live off them LOL

Luckily, I've always felt that my Mom (and my 'parents' when my father was alive) treated all of us equally. The only thing I ever really noticed was that I never got away with anything...but my younger sister (by 2 years) got away with quite a bit and my younger brother (by 6 years) got away with everything under the sun (after my dad died when bro was 11). Otherwise, we've always been treated the same--it's we 'children' who treat our mom differently. She's my best friend and part of what keeps my world turning 'round. My sister is a good daughter, but takes advantage of the fact that she lives at home...does not contribute to the household, is selfish a lot of times and would rather spend her money out at the clubs with her friends then to help mom put food on the table. My brother is a lot like me and really loves my mom, but he's only 19 and still very immature (and hot-headed). He also lives at home and doesn't contribute (but works in construction which isn't very stable right now, whereas my sister works a good, fulltime job and brings home GOOD pay).

On the other hand, I take care of a little girl and little boy who are cousins. Their fathers are brothers. One brother was and is the 'good' son. He did everything right, works at the family business, has a nice home and nice family. The other brother was the one in trouble all the time. An alcoholic and drug addict who lived in halfway houses and was always in trouble with the law. Who's family do you think gets more attention, $, care from their parents? The lame former drug addict. Sure, he's pulled his life together somewhat, but the 'good' son (and family) are practically treated like the black sheep. I could NEVER imagine treating my children differently like that.