Thread: My son and his controlling girl friend.

Here's my 2 cents worth. I dated my first boyfriend when I was 15. Mom's rule was: If he wants to talk to you, then HE can call you. We dated for 4 months before I was allowed to start calling him. And that was only to see what time he wanted picked up. Mom's philosophy was: good girls don't call and bug a boy every 5 minutes. That something that I still follow nowdays. I'm 29 and when I first started dating Robert, I would call once or twice a week and that was only after he told me he was tired of having to call me.

Thanks everyone for the replies and advice, I took all into consideration.

My son and I have both been sick with the flu (infact it hit all 4 of my kids), but even though he missed two days of school last week his girl friend was over here twice. They didn't see each other last night because Zach has to work this morning but they were still on the phone with each other all late afternoon until evening. I asked him to be off the phone by 9 because he needed to be up early for work, plus I felt he needed a good night sleep because of the flu. When I got up at 10 he was still on the phone, I again asked him to get off, which he did, then he explained that he tried to get off the phone at 9, but she started having an asthma attack and she wanted him to stay on the line. This has happened more than once. She doesn't carry her inhaler or any other meds with her, at least when she has came over here. But she does seem to have a lot of attacks around him.

Anyways I told him that he could take her out tonight beinG Valentines day but the most money I would loan him would be $20. He was paid last week and after taking her to the movies and out to eat, plus buying gifts for her, he is down to just $10. But before he went out shopping for her I warned him I would only loan him twenty for tonight. I guess he realized last night that thirty dollars wouldn't go to far and he tried hitting me up for more money. He didn't argue (he is getting better about that), but realized tonight will not be dinner and a movie. He has also realized that he might need to start working more hours just because his pay checks don't seem to last long anymore.

Originally posted by Suz*e*
I did the same stuff...I didn't do it to hurt my mom, but when you are that age...your significant other is such a huge deal in your head. Don't take it personal, he is just being young...let him!

I kind of agree. I have a 16 year old daughter and I wish that was the least of the problems I have with her. lol

Originally posted by CABANN
Thanks everyone for the replies and advice, I took all into consideration.

My son and I have both been sick with the flu (infact it hit all 4 of my kids), but even though he missed two days of school last week his girl friend was over here twice. They didn't see each other last night because Zach has to work this morning but they were still on the phone with each other all late afternoon until evening. I asked him to be off the phone by 9 because he needed to be up early for work, plus I felt he needed a good night sleep because of the flu. When I got up at 10 he was still on the phone, I again asked him to get off, which he did, then he explained that he tried to get off the phone at 9, but she started having an asthma attack and she wanted him to stay on the line. This has happened more than once. She doesn't carry her inhaler or any other meds with her, at least when she has came over here. But she does seem to have a lot of attacks around him.

Anyways I told him that he could take her out tonight beinG Valentines day but the most money I would loan him would be $20. He was paid last week and after taking her to the movies and out to eat, plus buying gifts for her, he is down to just $10. But before he went out shopping for her I warned him I would only loan him twenty for tonight. I guess he realized last night that thirty dollars wouldn't go to far and he tried hitting me up for more money. He didn't argue (he is getting better about that), but realized tonight will not be dinner and a movie. He has also realized that he might need to start working more hours just because his pay checks don't seem to last long anymore.

The "asthma attacks", I would be telling her parents about too. Obviously she is in need of medical attention if she is having so many. (sarcasm) Talk about a snowjob! LOL!