Thread: Help me work though this with your opinions......

In my opinion, moving in/living with someone carries the same commitment as marriage, just no ring or a piece of paper. If you are serious enough to move in together, you should be serious enough for marriage, not saying you have to get married.. If both of you are NOT on that same page, I would not move in with him otherwise chances are you and your son are going to be going through a major change before long.

Dating is such a tricky thing, even more so when you have children involved. I do wish you the best of luck. But, if you need to sit down and write out the pros and cons then there are doubts and when there are doubts, it is better to step away from it.

Originally Posted by DAVESBABYDOLL

Oh, and about his age. So foofin what if he's 46 and never been married..look at the 40 year old virgin LMAO. Besides, maybe he's just picky and didn't want to settle, maybe in you he's found "the one", what he has been looking for in a woman.

Maybe if more people were picky and didn't settle, there would be less divorce. JMO

IMO the 40 y/o virgin is not a typical type thing. How can he know she is the one in 7 months? IDK it just seems weird, I wouldnt give up my house etc to move with such a young relationship

Lynn, if you decide to move in with him, I would have a backup plan. I am sure he wont charge you rent, so, any money you would pay for rent, I would set aside and have it ready just in case things dont work out.

One jewel of wisdom, if you are having doubts now, do you really think it would work out?

Some men are just very shy.....and if his work is all around men, and his social life (say a bowling team, hockey team, baseball team) is all about men. He hangs around men, doesn't hang out in bars and such....he may not have had lots of opportunities to meet women.

My brother is divorced. He didn't socialize nor work with women, so the first woman who took notice of him, he fell in love it and she took him for a ride.. We'll he's divorced and with his job and lifestyle, he's not exposed to other women, so he doesn't date much.

That could be his case. He may be a wonderful guy....it's possible....but I'd keep my eyes open and ears up either way.

Originally Posted by Bliss

My only advice - 7 months to to soon. I know some people will say differently, BUT you got a lot to lose if things go bad quick....If I were you, I'd try to get to know as much as I possibly could before jumping...



He's 46 and has never been in a serious relationship? That doesn't seem right. {shrug**

we are talking about moving in around the end of the summer... so we will have been seeing each other over a year at that point... I UNDERSTAND AND APPRECIATE every point ya'll have made... as we all know we've seen people married within a few weeks and were married for 50 years... others waited years and ended up divorced after just a few

he's only like 5'5, he's not the most attractive man in the world... (some of us can over look that, some can't)... he only has vision in one eye, so one eye is kind of off...) i believe alot of that is why he hasn't had a serious relationship, most women won't give a man a chance if he's not tall, dark and handsome... i believe in fully getting to know someone before making anykind of judgement call on him. He does have a 17 year old daughter that lives in Montana, and tried to make it work with her mother... she got pregnant on a one night stand, and he didn't know about the daughter till the day after she was born.

Originally Posted by freeby4me

If he was too busy with work then maybe he didnt want to "settle down" until he actually did have time for family. There is NOTHING wrong with that at all.

this is part of it... a cattle ranch, no matter how small is a 365/7 thing... there are problems with cattle, feeding them, taking care of the barns and tractors, cutting/hauling hay... then he works at his family's bowling alley 5 nights a week.... so women have told him "he doesn't have time for a relationship" i help him out with the cattle and the hay, and we seem to spend lots of time together. I told him any woman that truely wanted to spend time with him, would be there along side him if it was something she could help with.


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I've talked with my son, and i've talked with my son's dad. THIS IS NOT A DECISION I'M TAKING LIGHTLY... and if it were just me.. I'd be there in a heartbeat. But... if EVERYONE isn't on board with this.. it won't happen....


I TRUELY DO APPRECIATE EACH AND EVERY ONE OF YOU.....

I think he sounds like a great guy. If he makes you happy., I say Go For It! Life is too damn short.

Originally Posted by MsLynn

we are talking about moving in around the end of the summer... so we will have been seeing each other over a year at that point... I UNDERSTAND AND APPRECIATE every point ya'll have made... as we all know we've seen people married within a few weeks and were married for 50 years... others waited years and ended up divorced after just a few

he's only like 5'5, he's not the most attractive man in the world... (some of us can over look that, some can't)... he only has vision in one eye, so one eye is kind of off...) i believe alot of that is why he hasn't had a serious relationship, most women won't give a man a chance if he's not tall, dark and handsome... i believe in fully getting to know someone before making anykind of judgement call on him. He does have a 17 year old daughter that lives in Montana, and tried to make it work with her mother... she got pregnant on a one night stand, and he didn't know about the daughter till the day after she was born. .

Oh ok! I'm not one to judge a person based on things not of their control. I didn't even think about what you mentioned. It makes perfect sense...Some are looking for perfection... G'luck & hope things go well for the both of you.