Thread: Allowance ??

Originally Posted by Breezin

We have an elderly neighbor, and a single mom with young kids across the street, we've taught our kids to be good neighbors, they shovel their driveway and rake their leaves etc for free.

These are jobs the neighbors HIRE him to do. They approached him! They are not elderly and they are not single parents-they are able bodied people who wanted my DS to do work for them and they pay him to do it.

GRRR

Originally Posted by dinosmom

These are jobs the neighbors HIRE him to do. They approached him! They are not elderly and they are not single parents-they are able bodied people who wanted my DS to do work for them and they pay him to do it.

GRRR

I didn't say anything about your child working. All I did was explain why that isn't an option for us.

I'm starting to think lurking was the way to go on this board.

I have been at odds with allowance for my dd myself. She is only 6 though. I tried it at one point, but neither she nor I remembered very well. I gotta make a chart as what is expected of her. If we try again it will be $5 a week, but still I struggle with it. she is a cheerleader, plays baseball, takes art classes whenever offered, in girl scouts, and is starting tumbling tomorrow. so in a way I think I pay for enough!!! LOL

Originally Posted by dinosmom
These are jobs the neighbors HIRE him to do. They approached him! They are not elderly and they are not single parents-they are able bodied people who wanted my DS to do work for them and they pay him to do it.

GRRR

Originally Posted by Breezin

I didn't say anything about your child working. All I did was explain why that isn't an option for us.

I'm starting to think lurking was the way to go on this board.

I think she was venting her own frustrations, definitely not aimed at you. IMO

My sons did chores like cleanning their bedrooms & helping with dishes. Allowances did work & they learned to save for what they really wanted. Then they grew up & the money management I taught them went out the door.
My 24 year old graduated from college last week. I told him that we needed to get his car put into his name & I would pay his car insurance through June when the policy renews. He looked at me & said he didn't have money for THAT! I told him if he didn't have the money for insurance then he can't afford his car & I would sell it.
This kid is working full time, ok not in his field, but a job is a job. How is this kid ever going to be able to afford rent, utilities, food, & student loan is beyond me. I strongly suggested that he looks for a job close to home for the next year or two & use that money to pay off his student loans. If he wants going out money he has to keep the job he has right now & go there part-time.
At 24 I was married with a child.

when both my kids started driving, and we had to add them to the policy, they had to pay their own insurance. my youngest worked at a movie theater on weekends, and my oldest worked as a grocery store bagger. When they got jobs, their allowance ended, and they bought everything for themselves.

My daughter is 10 and she get's $5 a week. She's an only child and I came to realize that she was SPOILED and so DH and I decided that we will give her a $5 a week allowance and other than a holiday we don't buy her stuff. If she wants something she needs to save up for it. Her only responsibilities is keeping her bedroom and bathroom clean. If she gets in trouble at home or school she will lose some or all of it depending on how bad she was.

I did not give my kids an allowance when they were growing up. The usual chores around the house were responsibilities. If they wanted money for extra stuff that I did not already provide, they had to do extra stuff to earn the extra money.

Yeah, I taught my kids to be good neighbors. When I was growing up it was a given that you helped your neighbor. It is different if a neighbor comes and asks for them to do something and offers to pay them, I am talking about older people and those in need.

Originally Posted by sunniekiss

My sons did chores like cleanning their bedrooms & helping with dishes. Allowances did work & they learned to save for what they really wanted. Then they grew up & the money management I taught them went out the door.
My 24 year old graduated from college last week. I told him that we needed to get his car put into his name & I would pay his car insurance through June when the policy renews. He looked at me & said he didn't have money for THAT! I told him if he didn't have the money for insurance then he can't afford his car & I would sell it.
This kid is working full time, ok not in his field, but a job is a job. How is this kid ever going to be able to afford rent, utilities, food, & student loan is beyond me. I strongly suggested that he looks for a job close to home for the next year or two & use that money to pay off his student loans. If he wants going out money he has to keep the job he has right now & go there part-time.
At 24 I was married with a child.

didn't have money for THAT made me laugh out loud!!! They're all alike.
Yes we were married with children at that age but they don't seem to mature as soon as we did!!