feeling stupid shocked and numb

**bockad** · 10-18-2005, 04:43 AM

I don't post much, but this blows me away.
Found out yesterday that I'm pregnant.
Here's the problem. first of all, I'm 40! Second, have been very careful! Third,we have 3 allready, 17-13-8. We were DONE. I am in denial, it hasn't really hit me yet. I know any child is a blessing, but this is blowing me away.
Did you guys slip me some water?????
Anyone can lend some support about this situation or advice on how to cope?
Thanks, diana

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**Njean31** · 10-18-2005, 05:10 AM

Wow.......obviously this child was meant to be. my mom had me when she was 39. Look on the bright side...........atleast you'll have lots of help from your other children

good luck

**tracyb** · 10-18-2005, 05:13 AM

congrats...on the news...but I am sorry that this was not planned....I do hope all gets better as the shock wears off of you and your hubby....by the way...what does he think? did you have to pick him up off the floor after you did yourself...lol
Many Prayers for your family

***lassss*** · 10-18-2005, 05:29 AM

First off CONGRATS!!!!!! Even though this child wasn't planned, I am sure he/she will be loved and it was meant to be.

Perhaps when this child is born, you can get your tubes tied or banded. I got mine banded when I was 30 and it's been great. It is reversable in case I change my mind (which I haven't lol)

Good luck and take care of the two of you

**luvangel72** · 10-18-2005, 06:03 AM

I really think that things happen for a reason. I am not a super religious person or anything, but I think God has a plan for everybody. So that child has a pretty important reason to come into this world. I got pregnant while on birth control before I turned 18 and I thought it was the end of the world. But the 1st time I felt my baby girl move, it was heaven! That totally changed the way I felt. And now she is 16 and I cannot imagine what life would have been like without her! You can't change things, all you can do is make the best of it. Once the shock wears off, you will be able to think more clearly and this baby will be a blessing. If not to you then maybe to another childless couple who has been waiting a long time for a baby. It will all work itself out. Good luck!

**mimi37** · 10-18-2005, 12:16 PM

Congratulations. My youngest son came as a total surprise. My older kids are 19, 17, and 16. My youngest just turned 8 on Saturday. At first I felt resentful when I found out I was pregnant. I figured I would be in my mid-forties when all my other kids were done with school. Having my youngest was like starting over. I love him to death though and would die if anything happened to him.

**Trishntx** · 10-18-2005, 05:47 PM

Congrats. ONce your over the shock, just think how spoiled this child will be....

All those older brothers or sisters will be so protective. It will be a special addition to your family. Enjoy this wonderful surprise!!!

**ang in NC** · 10-18-2005, 06:46 PM

This happen to a friend of mine when she was 40. She worked the entire time. Had the baby in 3 hrs.She says she such an easy baby cause the kids do everything. After it is born, get your tubes tied!lol

**janelle** · 10-18-2005, 11:08 PM

This baby will keep you young. My mother had me when she was 39 and I was the her baby forever. I even had her live with me and my hubby for seven years before she had to go into a carehome. She died this year at the age of 97 and I miss her so much.

My sister and two brothers weren't as close as I was to my mother. I think having a baby older in life makes you want to spend more time with the baby.

**bockad** · 10-19-2005, 05:27 AM

thanks for all the comments and support. I am feeling a lot better about it now that a few days have gone by to let it sink in. I just hope that with me being 40, the baby will be okay. I have been praying for strength and it has helped a lot. I know God has a plan for my little suprize. Believe me, the tubes will be tied, I must be super fetrtile for this to have happened. The rest of the family are excited but still in shock. My 8yo daughter is sad she will no longer be the baby! Hubby is still walking around like a zombie, but he will be great, as always.
thanks again, your views help a lot.
Diana

***DAVESBABYDOLL*** · 10-19-2005, 06:34 AM

CONGRATS!

I had Michael in 83 (he's now 22 in Dec.) Jordan in 86 (now 19 and a Marine) Jaimie in 90 and 15....Dawson in 2002 lol at age 36 -twelve year spread from last one,and I would have another one now at 40, it's a hell of a lot easier when your older with older kids (JMO)

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