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They say never bribe and I have .. sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't. My two can get down right out of hand at times and I have had to show them whos boss! When it is just my 4 year old and I it isn't bad .. she for the most part listens. And when they ask for something and I say no, I have been lucky .. they don't throw a fit! Whispering also doesn't work with my kids, but you can always try it on yours.
All children need discipline and I try my best to keep mine in tow. They get spanked when needed and as we all know there is a difference between spanking and beating.
Good luck and hopefully your little one doesn't go through that fit stage when your at the check out .. lol.
They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate them, a day to love them, but then an entire life to forget them. Distance and time may separate us but friendship and memories won't.
~When someone you love becomes a memory, the memory becomes a treasure~
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12-10-2003 06:11 AM
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LOL I have to answer this....roflmao
My 3 year old has been acting up since the new baby, I think it is because of jelousy number one, and all of the attention he needs with this cp thing.
But we were in the store yesterday, I was finishing up getting stocking stuffers for my older 2 girls. well she saw a giraffee and WANTED it LOL
She started screaming when I made her put it back., on the floor kicking and everything LOL
I looked at her and said Chelsea, I was going to consider getting it for you but now that you have made such a stink about it the answer is no.
well she turns around and says I don't wanna talk to you no more LOL!
So I told her O.K. I wont talk to you anymore 
Of course people are looking at me weird, thinking why dont I get her that darn stuffed animal.
I picked her up put her in the cart and ignored her tantrum, all of a sudden with me ignoring it (it dissapeared like magic LOL)
She was doing her best to get my attention saying Mommy, Mommy..... LOL I stayed silent, then I hear an I'm Sorry LOL
Then she was good for the rest of the day LOL
I think she thought Mommy wasnt gonna talk to her anymore for good LOL
Huggles,Shelley
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Well, I may get flamed for this, but this subject is one that I am studying very carefully now.
When you bribe children, they are learning how to manipulate you. Eventually they will act out, so that "mom gives me something, then *maybe* I will stop for awhile, then just start up again.
My DD is 14, and believe me, she has it down to an art, just how far to throw a fit, scream and cause such much turmoil that I would cave-especially when I am not feeling well.
Doing this tough love stuff-is alot like treating a child. I would recommend that parents look into this. It's the kids that are strong-willed like my dot. You don't want to break their spirit, just reign them in and let them know that *YOU* are the "boss". They have to learn that rules aren't punishment and that every action has a consequence, good or bad.
Spanking they say is ok, to a point, but it also teaches children fear and violence.
Ok, flame away
I am standing firmly on this now-my DD has tried to control things since I got divorced, not anymore. She may not like the rules, or me even, but so what I know what's best. I don't say that in a condesending way either.
Edited to add, another key is consistency. They can't not get in trouble for something they did get in trouble yesterday for. Then they don't understand what is right and what is wrong in mom and dad's eyes.
My friend has a daughter that has played the parents against each other to the point that they are now getting divorced. I have seen it, I see it now, unfortunately, they don't...and the daughter gloats about it.
Last edited by Ladytiger; 12-10-2003 at 10:22 AM.
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