Thread: Question About Age

I don't plan on missing out in my teen years. Like every teen, with or without a boyfriend, I can still hang out with friends, go to parties and just chill.

It may be like that at first...being able to go out and have fun with your friends and all. How do you think you will feel if he went out to the clubs with his friends and you couldn't go? Just curious that's all. I think I would be a little jealous over time if my bf could do things I couldn't. It really sounds like you have made your mind up on this already...and if you did...just be careful and really listen to the advice you are getting. Everyone who has posted on this has given you some GREAT advice! We have ALL been there...I would never want someone else to feel the pain I went through for love. Boy, if I could turn back time...I would've done a lot of things different!

Most of all, if you are going to be with an adult, and act like an adult....you need to talk to your parents LIKE AN ADULT!!! If you lose their trust now, it will be harder to get back later!

"[/COLOR][/SIZE] Obviously everyone on this board thinks you should wait Discord_Goddess, but it's obvious you are going to do what you want. But in the end, I'll bite my tongue to keep from saying "I told you so."


Ditto!


I was married to a man 10 1/2 years older..thought he was really mature and had it all going for him. Things change! I wish I would've known then what I know now! Once you take off the rose colored glasses, it doesn't look so rosy anymore!

Ok......I just found out about this post. My DD is the OP. That is why one of her replies was accidently made using my user name. She has told me that this is about "a friend." Regardless of who we are talking about...a 13 y.o. girl should stick to guys closer to her own age. And like I told you a while ago DD, there is definately something wrong with a 21 year old guy that is even remotely interested in a 13 or 14 year old girl.

Posted by cpbaby
"The goals and needs are so much different. If his goals and needs are the same as yours, then he is very immature, and if yours are the same as his, then you are WAY over mature. While he may say that he doesnt mind you age, when he wants to go out and party at clubs or bars and you cant, that will be a problem. At 21 he will be more interested in sex then you NEED to be at 14. PLEASE think abotu this long and hard."

Posted by LLFan
"Secondly, it's absurd. I have studied Psychology for a few years and can tell you any man who is 21 years of age and is considering dating someone 14 has some serious issues that you don't want to see unfold."

Posted by DiscordGoddess
"I can't agree completely with all of you. My step-mom was 14 when she met my dad who was 27. They have been together for 10 years. Of course they fight just like every normal couple and of course they've had bad times. But they still love eachother..."

Yes...and your stepmothers grandparents threatened to charge him with statutory rape, my dear.
And no, hon, you know as well as I do that normal couples don't fight like that.

Con't from last post......

Posted by Jolie Rouge
"If you were my daughter, you would not be allowed to date until you are 15, and then they would be double or "group" dates. If I caught a 21 year old male sniffing around, he would have some serious problems -- the least of which would be a felony on his PERMANANT record."

sounds like waiting is a very good idea here. So many years of happiness left with mom and friends to say later I WISHED I WOULD OF.....then it is too late......

This entire thread is bizarre. First a 13 year old asks for opinions on a controversial matter that she KNOWS will result in negative replies. Then "Mom" pops online and jumps right in the conversation?

Sorry, getting too weird for me and quite frankly, we're wasting our breath. Our opinions and reasons weren't really wanted at all.

When my dot was 13 this wouldn't have even been a consideration. You're the kid. For another (over) 4 years you are still going to be the kid. As long as your parents house you, feed you, educate you and care for you, you are going to be the kid. When you're 18 and out on your own, taking care of yourself things like this thread won't be an issue. But until then, you're the kid and you're parents have ALL the say in the world over what you do, where you go, how you dress & who you see. Enjoy doing what 13 year olds do. You have the rest of your life for relationships.

It's time for me to leave this thread before I really say what I think & what I would do to a 13 year old dot and a 21 year old that was even REMOTELY interested in her.

Well if I was the mom the girl would not be going anywhere, the boy would get a stern talk to about the consequences and jail time he would be serving and if I saw him around my daughter after that then his butt would be talking to the authorities!! There is no way I would allow my daughter around this person who is discussing that they should be together, yuck!!! This guy is a sicko for even thinking anything like that. Personally Discord, I think you like to cause what your name is!! Be glad you are not my daughter because you would not have the freedom to be discussing this kind of stuff with this "man" and you would be under the microscope.